“Claiming your birthright: Living the life denied you.”
The lecture was given by Steven Gold PhD
One of the things Steven said was that dissociation in itself is not a problem
“The only people who don’t experince dissociation are dead people”
He also said that multiplicity does not have to be a problem. It becomes a problem if there is conflict between parts
“Multiplicity is not a problem. It is only a problem if one has parts that are fighting each other
He talked about integration
“The issue is not integration. But we have worked with some people who do want to integrate”
“The most important thing is to be functioning better”
“The less present you are the more you never learnt how to function”
“There may be skills that people have never developed”
“They may have very little access to physical sensation”
“Never having learnt how to function leads to a psychological problem”
“If someone has never learnt how to funtion then their inability might lead to depression”
“Therapy is about teaching people the skills they need to live day by day”
” We start by saying – where are the gaps you never learnt?”
What is good therapy?
“A good therapist is more important than a trauma informed therapist”
“Therapists got themselves in a lot of trouble when the therapist has said, “you must have been abused” “
Look at the strengths of people.
“If you were wildly successful, what would your life look like?”
“What would you like to get out of therapy?”
You can listen to a podcast of Steven talking here
He has also written a book called Not Trauma Alone
This book has a forward written by Christine Courtois PhD where she talks about two conceptual models for working with adults who have been sexually abused as Children.
The first generation conceptual model was based on the diagnosis of PTSD. It emphasised identifying and working through the abuse-trauma and its aftermath.
The second generation conceptual model was based on the Complex PTSD formulation and emphasised personal safety, stabilisation and skillbuilding before any direct work on the trauma-abuse.
This was a very useful distinction to me as I can see now that the thing that the false memory people make a charicature of is the first generation model. They ignore the fact that recognised trauma therapy now operates from the second trauma model.
I also discovered that Courtois has written an excellent guide to doing CSA theraapy in a way that prevents the risk of falling into problems about so-called false memory which can be found here